THE DEEDS OF A DAD


                                                                 Proverbs 12:14


A man shall be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth: [and the recompense of a man's hands shall be rendered unto him.]  The word recompense indicates: whatever a man’s hands has sown that shall he also reap. He will reap the nature of his sowing, to be the very same results of the seed sown. One cannot sow discord and expect harmony, on the other end of the stick when one sows harmony and peace the crop will be raised as such, harmony and synchronization resulting in peace and serenity.


When men use their speech aright, to teach and comfort others, they enjoy acceptance through Christ Jesus; and the testimony of their conscience, that they in some measure answer the end of their being. [A quote from Matthew Henry’s commentary]  We men most of the time go through life not even giving thought of the fact that each and every deed word or action we perform has consequences forth coming, whether it be immediately or to follow at a later date.  You can rest assured that we affect others within our presence for the better or…. for the worse.  In MATTHEW HENRY’S quote above the phrase “the testimony of their conscience” pretty well sums it up.  The word testimony meaning the demonstration or evidence of that which lies within they’re spirits and soul and the word conscience meaning one’s ethics beliefs and principles.  You have often heard “that man has NO Scruples” well there you have it!   He has no conscience or integrity.  That type of person is non-integral, or not essential to life itself.  Sometimes we see the deeds of a man in which most likely we have stated: life would be better off without him, or this world would be a better place without the likes of him.  God never meant for any of His creation to be such an entity or creature.  But Satan on the other hand has made and is to this very day making sure that man becomes depraved corrupt, immoral and decadent. The fleshly desire of a man has made it all so easy.  The appetite of the flesh is never satisfied. 

Proverbs 27:20 Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied. It seems men are constantly on the prowl or stalking something that fulfills their hunger for happiness and fulfillment. Satan has a whole world full of niceties to tempt and draw the desires of the flesh of the male species. Of course we are aware that the counter part being the female faces the same temptations of the flesh, but we are concerned at this point with the male species. Time runs out on our years here on earth, each passing year we hear “where did time go”? If I had it to do all over again sure wish I hadn’t done that…. on and on it goes, where it stops only the man’s heart knows.

Life as we men know, is all too soon to perish; we too shall answer the end of our being.  What affect our life had here on earth and in others lives is known only by the marks of our character in which we have instilled in others memories.  The words we speak and the deeds we do before our families will “most often” form the starting point of our children’s trend of living life.  We as fathers are all too unaware of the immensity of affects with which we leave in our adolescent children as we go about our day to day exposé’s before our families.  I would doubt very much that we as husbands and fathers in “our total activities” give any thought of the eternal affects we are leaving upon and within our family’s life.   We AS Dads are in every way every day teaching, directing and affecting our family in all we do and live out before them.  No man can live unto himself and not leave some type of affect or influence on some one.  This holds even truer of those that are Husbands and Fathers.  I am very certain; if we as men scan our memory banks, we will pull up the good and bad videos as we replay the experiences in which we were part of, in the making of them, as we were the writer producer and the …actor playing our very own story.  I would dare say we will stir up emotions of all types as we observe the past performances of our Dad in comparison to us as being a “Dad”.  Though he possibly will be long deceased and not thought of for possibly months and even years, yet the leaving of his personal affects

upon our lives seems as real as if it was yesterday.  There are no doubts that these affects still govern our attitudes and approach toward life’s decisions and way of living.


Let’s take a look at the first part of Proverbs 12:14, a man shall be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth.  How many times have you as an adult ever regretted having a severe slippage of the tongue?   I would dare say that it was not a slip.  Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.  We see that the trouble is not an uncontrollable tongue, but an uncontrollable heart, wherein lies man’s spirit.  What the mouth commonly speaks, generally agrees with what is most in the heart.  I would even go one step farther than that, the mouth speaks specifically what the heart generates.


If one’s heart is full of deceit and poison, the mouth most often will manifest it to the degree of one’s openness.


There however are times we can and do bridle our tongue to mask the bedrock truth of our hatred ness or evil and contemptuous thoughts that lurk within, howbeit through it all whether spoken or unspoken

God knows the intent of man’s heart.


Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and [is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart].:13-Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do.   Much of the time we as husbands and fathers think only of the moment in which we are caught up in and are motivated by the emotions of the day, quickly forgetting the fact of our words have the power of life and death. Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21

Once our words are released they are never to be retracted or recalled so as to speak.  Though we might say… “I meant or let me put it another way,” the first words out of one’s mouth are the one’s that are remembered. I am most certain if you were to search the corridors of your mind you will recall the words in which you have spoken or you were, as a child would be  addressed with, only to still feel the hurt and sorrow of the past, however distant or far back it may it may have been. 


Our kid’s attitudes and very psyche are formed by the words that are spoken to them in their most informative years; I believe being the first 2-5 years.  Children’s communicative ability is determined and formed by the words in which they encounter in the early years of childhood.  The children’s confidence level and abilities are much of the time determined by how and what words have been spoken to them in the early, informative and educational years.  The words that have been spoken to them in their younger years much of the time will even affect the apex capability of their lives challenges and goals. The human nature of humanity’s senses is to process sounds and determine the meaning of what we hear and see.  We form opinions, judgments and views on the basis of two of the five senses, sound and sight.  Our attitudes evaluations and conclusions are arrived at by the information we take in, much as a computer, we are programmed to do so.  Unlike a computer however, mankind has emotional capabilities to evaluate and conclude with, thereby even our emotional make up is greatly affected by the words that have been spoken to us. The words spoken and the tone administered by determine the perception with which it is received.  We are continuously confronted with decision making in accordance with the communicative process of which we encounter all throughout or lives.   Of course words have a lasting affect on people’s lives all through the years no matter how or when spoken.  


Daddy’s words are forever remembered by the precious child that grows into a happy “or” sorrowful and hurt adult.  Dad, just what do you want to be remembered as and by?  We as fathers need to make that decision this very day, especially if you have young children at home in their most informative years.  Of course if there is repair work and seeking forgiveness to be done, it is never too late, at least before one departs from terra-firma.




The hands of a gentleman, these hands are remembered throughout the years as loving, and kind while others are remembered as cruel, just or unmerited capable or incompetent. 


The recompense of a man's hands shall be rendered unto him.  Our lives are noted not only by words in which we speak, but also by the deeds of our hands.


Honesty and integrity come to mind. Not only does God know the rendering of our hands activities, but also our children are watching our every move with anticipation of ending results. 


This is true whether we are repairing their toys, bicycle or putting together a complicated tinker toy or Erector set, though possibly a Lego set would be more recognizable this day and age. For those who are too young to remember either one, it would be described as an assemblage of a product proper comprised of many and varied parts that look completely impossible to be compatible one with another, but yet when assembled and fitly joined together there becomes a practicable product consisting of all parts working in unity; “much like putting together a family”.  The heart of a man is discernible by his outward manifestation.


Does a Dad have patience and methodical movements or is he a temperamental man not in charge of his emotions?  I personally have been on (shamefully) both sides of the coin. I will be candid and admit my deficiency in patience. Much or most of the time our self control has to do with our hearts attitude. I from personal experience have remembrance of hands being of a cruel nature.  Though my dad from time to time had good intentions of helping me with my needs, his uncontrollable temperament most often took control and determined the out come of the circumstances at hand. The good he tried to do often would stand in the shadow of the hurtful and fearful ending, which was most frequently to be. Children have a most clear cut memory of a father.   As words have an everlasting affect upon the children of a family so do the hands of a father.  A father can be remembered by cruel, unjust hands or by gentle and loving hands. Did he have hands that hugged you and held you when you were in need of assurance, or have hands that would thump you or else thrash you half to death with a belt or possibly of an instrument of handiness?  Some times a dad will do both. I will surely tell you the way in which your Father was raised will most often dictate the way in which he treats his family.  Only by the grace and intervention of God in a man’s life, will change the generational behavioral patterns passed down through the bloodline and or through learned sin traits.


The sad truth much of the time is, as God has stated in His Word, He, meaning God told us that he would visit the iniquity (sins) of the father down through the third and fourth generation. Numbers 14:18 The LORD is longsuffering, and of great mercy, forgiving iniquity and transgression, and by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation.


The generational curse in man’s life can be broken upon the surrendering of His will to the will of God, then and only then can one escape the tormented life; of a sinful behavioral pattern, in their approach toward life’s challenges. Upon a dad surrendering his will to a Holy God, the sin curse mentioned in Numbers will be broken, prohibiting the curse to be passed to his children. Of course this needs to be done very early in a child’s life, before the learned sin trait is ingrained or deep-seated in a child’s psyche.    


We as the young male and soon to be dads, learn too little too late for the good of the family to be under his leadership.  Much of the time the family, specifically the wife and children suffer due to the lack of Godly love and understanding in the Husband’s life. As seen above, Proverbs 12:14- A man shall be satisfied with good by the fruit of his mouth: and the recompense of a man's hands shall be rendered unto him.


A Husband and or father will have plenty to be sorry for, in living his life in such a way that his family suffers because of it.  Many families end in divorce due to the cruelty and uncaring attitude of a dad.  The divorce rate to day is staggering and I would dare say the immensity of it is due to a {self centered unregenerate male.} I believe the rate is three out of five marriages end in divorce.


As the head of the family goes, most often the rest of the body follows or reaps the result of the direction. I am not so naïve and negligent however, in acknowledging the fact that many women have a hand in the divorce rate also, nevertheless I am quite sure if their father and or husband had been a different man; they quite possibly would have turned out different in their role as a mother, and or wife.


                                  THE HANDS OF AN ENCOURAGING DAD


 The current pace of civilization imposes demands of time saving techniques on and in our lives.  We, it seems are born running in the race of humanity. Tomorrow is too late. The educational value system of today’s society, calls for earlier tutoring of the children more each year.  It seems we cannot teach our children early enough.  Possibly the parents want their children to have the edge in life in all they encounter. There is not a thing wrong with education, especially if it is administered in an ethically and timely manner.  The trouble is; I believe the parents are not letting the children experience the entirety of childhood.  Believe it or not; at some age during that individual’s life, they will realize they have missed out on a segment of their age experience, and one way or another they will try to recapture that which they have lost.  The timely loss, of experiencing one’s childhood plays havoc on the future of that individual.  The span of time through childhood and experiencing the elements of the life of a child are a sequential building process to that of maturity.  The time throughout the successive steps of aging encompass the learning elements in which all else are based in the future life of that child soon becoming a specific individual.  Not allowing a young child to experience all facets of experience “within sensibility” is like trying to build a structure without proper and adequate guidelines.

One may wonder what all of the above has to do with a “encouraging man’s hands”.  Many a Dads have demanded the bypass of kid’s emotions, especially the son’s of the family.  They seemingly have to always have the upper hand in the child’s emotional life.  Much of the time the Dad will not allow a child to live out the emotional drama in which a child may be going through. 


A Dad’s famous (Macho) sayings, get it together, suck it up, and shake or walk it off.


Now I am not advocating not telling the child to climb back on the horse after getting thrown off, but one does need to let the child express the fears and concerns of their future endeavoring.  Forcing a child into achievement without letting that child expressing their frustrations and fears of the impending action will never bring the sense of accomplishment in that individual’s life. They will never enjoy the success of their endeavors if they have been forced into succeeding or else.  It will most often leave a remorseful and dreaded memory of their childhood experience.


The hands of an encouraging Dad will make for happier memories as an individual reflects back over the days of their childhood with their Father.   Do not forget Dad…a child needs a hug every other day, if in fact not each day, so use those hands to give assurance to your Son, and or daughter often, they will never forget it and it will give them confidence in years to come…after we as men are dead and gone. The hands of a loving Father are precious…always living on.


I will not hesitate however to mention a Dad at times, does have to have and take a tough stand when they are teaching their child tough love and true-grit in overcoming obstacles in the pathway of succeeding. 


Of course then there are the times of a swift spanking of the child with little or no forethought of the complete circumstances involved. “These hands” are not encouraging, there however dispiriting.  

However the Bible teaches us as Fathers to punish the child early and not allow the disobedience become a way of life. A loving Dad will deal with disobedience promptly though not without sensibility in and with a controllable approach to the situation. A loving Dad will most often have controlled discipline.  Note: I said most often, it will be a pattern.  There are times when we as emotional creatures jump the gun and fire before we aim properly.  These are the times we need to ask for forgiveness and right the wrong with the offended.   The Bible makes it unmistakably clear however that:



He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Betimes means: getting to the point quickly. There should be a sundown rule with parents in confronting the disobedience of an adolescent. The sun should not set before the offense has been dealt with and an understanding has been reached by all involved. 


Proverbs 13:24 - 20:30   the blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil so do stripes the inward parts of the belly.   In no way am I advocating that a Dad should beat on any child no matter the age.  When we discipline it is to break the strong rebellious will or determination of the child to be disobedient and break not that of the child’s spirit.  A Dad or Mother is always to discipline in the spirit of redemption.  That is to redeem or to restore the relationship of the child in obedience to the parent. Just as when God chastises us when we walk in disobedience and defy His principles for our life. He chastises us to restore our relationship with Himself.  The chastising is of course to punish us to wake us up of our wrongdoing that we may repent and once again walk in the right relationship with our Father in Heaven.  The very same principle applies when we chastise our children in love, to restore once again the child’s relationship with the parent.   When a child is walking in disobedience to the parent the relationship or bond is severed with the parent.  Therefore when the relationship is restored there is nothing standing between the child and the parent; the relationship being no longer severed but once again complete and whole.

      There is a heartbreaking situation with the chastisement of children that has went on for years, and that is the experience of a child hearing their parents hollering or bellowing at them as if they had no feelings regarding such unsuitable behavior.  A child’s spirit can be and most often is broken by such a disgraceful behavior by a loving parent.

      The child often regresses into themselves and usually becomes introverted and non-confident in the society of tomorrow.  Of course this is passed down to who knows how many generations until one of the parents decides enough is enough, and does things God’s way.  The preceding generations experiencing the loss of  an individual’s spirit,  being broken several generations back, all being due to an out of control parent being out of the will of a loving God.


      There is nothing sweeter and more loving for a parent to do than chastise their precious children in the way in which God would chastise even the parent in their disobedience. The deeds of parent’s hands are precious when used by God’s standards. This is especially true when disciplining your children knowing they are depending on you to teach them right from wrong.  A child knows they are loved when a parent cares enough to punish them when they have erred in their ways in which they knew better to start with.  A child respects proper and loving disciplining.


                                               THE HANDS OF A WORKING MAN


Some males, or men, which ever the case may be, have the hands either of a working man, or the idle hands of the devil’s workshop.   It seems the generational curse of the male sect has watered down the meaning of REAL MEN.  However there are males running all over the place.  Today’s society is filled with male specimens running to and fro from one end of the earth to the other. The question is; just where are they going?  For the most part we as men do not know, but we are making great time.  Sadly, men of the last several generations have degenerated to the level of getting the full amount he can attain for the least amount of effort.  This enveloping sin has led the male sect to the lower levels of humanity. While there is absolutely not one thing wrong with being successful, there is however wrong in some of the ways in which men having approached the means thereof? 


Many males of this generation does not mind one bit of making gain out of another’s misfortunes. Some go a step further, they will snare the unsuspecting in order to take advantage for their own prospering. 

Work, I mean real physical labour has become to be avoided as much as possible, in most men’s lives... Humanity in this day and age especially has wanted the most for the least.  Though we can attest this has held true down through the ages.  I believe quite possibly, even the Prodigal Son was guilty of the same.  As the experience of his life went, he wanted to take his inheritance and turn toward the worldly pleasures. Seems he was not willing to stick around and assist his Dad in his older years. Something for nothing is the key words here. Today’s society has self pressurized humanity into the get rich quick fast lane with little or no effort. The works of a man’s hands have virtually gone by the wayside.  God Bless the Man’s hands that do honest work today.   There are many of men who have God fearing and God honoring hands, yes even in this day and age.  Consider the Truck drivers, the construction workers, and even “some” in the utility services of today. There are I am sure men in all walks of life that honor God with the labor of their hands in the endeavors of today’s society. Howbeit...there are those that by their very hearts attitude shame the male sect with their approach toward earning an honest living.  They are out there conning, lying cheating and deceiving any and all that they can. 


Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. Ephesians 4:28


They defraud and rip off others by any means of trickery with which they can get by.


 Sadly, men of “supposedly” Christian character are involved in the same, though somewhat harder to detect the deceiving key in which they unlock the door to deceptiveness.  Many of these men are in ministerial, teachers, laymen and etc: positions of today’s places of worship. 


Now do not think for one moment that I am accusing Pastor’s, Preachers, Evangelist and God fearing men serving God of being rip off artist,


 “I AM NOT”.  However there are those wolves in sheep’s clothing professing to be God fearing men “that are involved the undermining of society that sit in the pews, pay their dews and hear the news, and still… are involved through the week in ungodly activities. 


God says in His Word John 10:27: My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: Mark the man that follows not the Word of God in their activities of society.


It is such a travesty for children to know their Dad claims the blood of Christ as their redeemer and know for a fact the labor of their Dad’s hands are deceitful, perverse and dishonest.  What kind of a lesson does this send to the children under such circumstances? A double minded man is unstable in all of his ways. James 1:8


If you per happenchance are one of these men, draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. James 4:8 Matthew 6:33: But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.  May I ask: just what part of all do you not understand? We as men naming the name of Christ dare not and can not lead and teach our family by our walking in a perverse direction of what the Bible teaches and admonishes us to do. Our activities speak so loud they cannot hear a word we say.   Consider the man with the unjust weights .Our very works are weighted in the balances with which we work by.  Thou shalt not have in thine house divers’ measures, a great and a small. Deuteronomy 25:14


But thou shalt have a perfect and just weight, a perfect and just measure shalt thou have: that thy days may be lengthened in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee 25:15. While I know this is depicting the scales with which we make gain by, it is so applicable to slothful men that make honest work void in their lives.  Luke 8:17 for nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.   I Corinthians 3:13 every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man's work of what sort it is. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men Colossians 3:23;


Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? Corinthians 3:16 It is shameful unto a man to live a life while his actions contradict the words in which he is supposed to live by.  We are speaking a great amount of a man’s deeds and works. I believe that the works of man’s hands are not separable considering both the spiritual and physical, as it is in direct correlation of one’s spirit. 


The accomplishments of a Man’s hands are in direct proportion to the intents of his spirit.  


They manifest the very motive in their end performance. This holds true in “all” that is wrought by his hands.


With our hands we raise praises upward unto our Heavenly Father, or with our hands we do the work of the arch deceiver.  Some men practice both. I believe they are classified as “Hypocrites”. A milder terminology would be frauds. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. James 1:8


Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. James 4:8


I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. 1st. Timothy 2:8 Man’s hands; once again are a direct barometer of their hearts’ attitude.

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